These days, being smart with your emotions is just as important as book smarts. It’s about how you handle your feelings, understand others, and deal with everyday challenges. But a lot of people don’t even realize they have strong emotional intelligence. It’s not always obvious and doesn’t always look a certain way.

You don’t have to be perfect or have it all figured out. Emotional intelligence often shows up in small, everyday moments– things you do without thinking. If you’re curious whether you might have it, here are five easy signs to watch for.